5 Ways To Experience More Inner Peace

Hello Everyone! I hope you’re all enjoying Life and finding Peace within all of your experiences.

Over my years of travel, I’ve been lucky enough to learn beautiful Life lessons. These lessons have led me into experiencing Peace on a level that I never previously imagined. Was I Peaceful before I began traveling? I sure thought so. But, looking back on it now. I was not. I didn’t even know what Peace was. I thought Peace was an emotion or virtue or something that you felt at one point in the day and didn’t later due to whatever circumstances arose.

What is Peace? In my words,  Peace is not a virtue. Rather, a state-of-Being. Peace is Knowing and living in the Truth of the present moment above all the changing “things”. It is that calm, relaxed feeling of Simply Being. Peace is Bliss without attachment to anything, any person, or any outcome. Peace is surrendering. Surrendering to the Higher Power within You.

Like I said, there’s been a few Life lessons that have led me to understand and live in Peace. I want to point out, that in no way am I saying that I’ve mastered Peace. I’m still frequently upgrading and practicing The Peaceful Way in all moments and situations of my Life’s experiences.

That’s why I’m writing this to you. I very well know that You may already be living in Peace. If you find yourself however, looking for new ways to evolve into a greater Being, I’d like to see if I can help. I understand that what I’m about to share is coming from my experiences and my perspective, so there is a chance that you may not resonate with it. It goes without saying, but, my way is not the only way. Nor the right way. It is what it is. I would simply like to share with you what’s worked for me. From a friend to another friend. So, here we go, 5 Ways that have helped me Live in Peace. I hope you enjoy.

1. Be Vulnerable

The strongest Love is the Love that can demonstrate it’s fragility.

Paulo Coelho (Author of The Alchemist)

Now-a-days, I Love being vulnerable. I’ve found so much Peace through vulnerability. I Love being vulnerable with people I know. I Love being vulnerable with people I don’t know, or whom I’ve just met. Why? Because it sets the stage for them to be vulnerable with me. Don’t you feel so much more open to share your deep thoughts and feelings with someone who has already done that to you? I’m not a surface guy anymore. I used to be. I grew up burying all my emotions and pretending that everything was all good on the outside. And my Life’s relationships and experiences reflected that. There was no depth. It was all surface. I was lying to myself on the outside and inside. I didn’t want to tell people if I was struggling with something because I thought that they would judge me for how weak I was.

I noticed though, over the years, how much I Love people who are honest and vulnerable about what’s going on in their lives, even if it’s shitty! Because why not? I don’t want to hear that everything is perfect 100% of the time because I know it’s not. And if you say it is, then I know you’re lying. Lying to not only me, but yourself.

I’ve learned that if I put myself out there, naked and true, I give other’s the chance to understand, relate, and maybe even help. When I’m vulnerable with other’s, I experience first hand, Love and Compassion on the deepest levels of the human spirit. I feel so blessed to experience the kind hearted-ness and Love from everyone around the world. Life’s just so much more simple and Peaceful being vulnerable and True.

2. Love ALL

Love is the bridge between You and Everything


I have found so much Peace through understanding that everyone in this world is doing their best with the resources they have. Before traveling, I used to take so many things personally for how others were acting. During my travels, I was smacked in the face with different cultures. Through the experience of new cultures, I came to the understanding that other’s act the way they do because of the experiences they’ve encountered throughout their lives. There is nothing personal about the way a person is treating me, it is simply what they’ve learned throughout their lives from their experiences. I found it very easy to Love All with this understanding that everyone is doing their best with the resources that they have. With this understanding, comes the main reason why I travel; I travel to broaden my experiences, to deepen my understanding of others, so I can deepen my understanding of mySELF…which is ultimate growth.

3. Surrender Control

It is only when you give up trying to force or control anything, that you get to experience the kind of control of which you’ve always wanted, but never knew existed.

Soooooooo many experiences throughout my travels have been soooooooo far out of my control that it’s not even funny. Bus schedules, plane delays, how taxi drivers act, detours in Indonesian roads, hostels losing bookings, earthquakes, and coronavirus are just a few of a bajillion things that I’ve experienced but are out of my control. HAHA! Funny thing is that I thought I was in control of some of these things at one point in my life! Goes to show why I experienced so much tension at the start of my travels. Thankfully though, I’ve come to realize over the years, how little there is that I actually control. I’ve found so much Peace in Surrendering Control; By Going With The Flow. When I say surrender control, I don’t mean just “giving up” and “quitting”. I mean Allowing The Universe or God to work “Through Me” and “As Me” to create my unique, miraculous experiences.

I’ve come to recognize that when I set expectations or think that something should happen in a certain way, meaning that I’m attached to an outcome, tension and frustration ALWAYS follow. That’s why, I’ve learned to relinquish any expectation. It’s made my Life so much easier by releasing expectations which has also led to releasing any resistance. I want to point out that I’m not saying don’t dream. I encourage imagination and dreaming… BIG! What I’m saying is don’t be attached to how it happens or in what way. Allow The Universe to work it’s magic.

Resistance is Fear. Fear of The Unknown.

I still catch myself attached to how things play out in my daily life. But, that’s just it, I catch myself, and then change and release any expectation I may have. When I do, I experience the Ease and Flow of Life. By surrendering control, I get to take part in the beautiful collaboration with Life/The Universe/God. It is only when you give up trying to force or control anything, that you get to experience the kind of control of which you’ve always wanted, but never knew existed.

4. Shrug Your Shoulders To Everything

From there to here, and here to there, funny things are everywhere.

Dr. Seuss

When I say shrug your shoulders at everything, I mean take nothing seriously. Yes, you heard me right, Nothing. I take nothing seriously. Because why would I? Life’s not meant to be serious. Life’s meant to be Fun in every way. I take everything lightly. When I say this, I mean that I laugh at everything, I smile at everyone, and I chuckle the hardest when Life hands me a pile of shit and drops it off right in front of me. How could I not? What good does it do moving forward if I take anything seriously? In my Life, I’ve noticed that taking stuff seriously get’s me moving in the opposite direction of the way I want to go. So, this lesson is a simple one but one that indeed explains “The Way of The Chucklehead” beautifully; laugh at everything, make jokes often, hug the ones you Love, and laugh the hardest when Life’s the hardest.

5. Love CHANGE

Every success story is a tale of constant adaption, revision, and change.

Richard Branson

Oh man this is a fun one!I believe that the people who live longest in this world have one thing in common and it’s not because they’ve been on a plant based diet, hitting the p90x workout twice a week, drowning themselves in the nootropics, or anything else of the sorts. I believe that the individuals who live longest and healthiest in this world are masters of change and masters of flexibility. The world is constantly evolving and changing, so why wouldn’t I? If I’m not changing and evolving then I’m slowly dying. And if I have the option to change and grow or don’t and die, then why wouldn’t I choose “change” all-day-long? The simple fact that we are alive right now means that we have learned to adapt and evolve into meeting the ever changing requirements of the world. Is change sometimes hard? Yeah, for sure. But, the difficulty is worth the reward, every-time. So I will remain always open to changing and upgrading the being that I am because I know that change is good, ALWAYS.

Well, there we have it guys, the 5 ways that have helped me live a more Peaceful Life. I’m not saying that these are the only 5 things that have led me to Peace. There’s hundreds of lessons that have contributed over the years. I chose these 5 because they are closest to my heart. I hope you all enjoyed. Please don’t hesitate to reach out and say what’s up! Also, if you’re experiencing any tension, confusion, or just flat out want to upgrade your Life’s experiences, shoot me an email at and we’ll work together to get you the Personal Coaching/Guiding expertise that you’re looking for. Other than that, I just want to say that, I LOVE YOU ALL. And always remember to… B R E A T H E.

Filled With Peace and Love,

Mitchy Freakin Wilder

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